Here is a quick guide for BDSM musts,

dos and don’ts.

I provide a more intimate paid Q&A

sessions for further understanding.

SEX WORK IS WORK

So you are new to BDSM scene and if you are reading this you might be curious or thinking about it. Maybe you watch something online, a movie, heard a song or simply you had an experience and want to dig further but first you should know that pro dommes are sex workers and we face so much bad stigma just like you if people knew your little secret.

Fem dommes are secret keepers, we understand what you feel and desire, a professional dominatrix wont judge you for your kinks and fetishes but do be aware that mutual respect, communication and consent is elemental and specially that you hold high respect to our craft, our time and work.

Because yes, been a dominatrix is a lot of WORK.

Personally I have the firm belief that been a dominatrix is so much more than been a mean bitch.

I believe a good leader doesn’t necessarily has to be a dictator or a tyrant but has a firm grasp of the energy of a room, individuals capabilities and knows when and how to demand and push for more.

define your preferences and boundaries.

BDSM is an out of body and mind experience, that happens when the sub and domme is in sync with its own physical and emotional feelings.

Meditation is good to get in touch with this to really explore what kinks and fetishes seem appealing and why.

Conclude what are your soft and hard boundaries.

SOFT BOUNDARIES= Fetishes that seem appealing but willing to be flexible to explore.

HARD BOUNDARIES= Fetishes are a definite NO!

GREEN FETISHES= Fetishes that are a fuck YES!

IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS AN ADULT TO COMMUNICATE THIS PROPERLY TO YOUR FUTURE DOMINATRIX BEFORE A SESSION BUT KEEP IN MIND THAT AT ANY PART OF THE SESSION YOU CAN REQUEST TO STOP BY ASSIGNING ANY “SAFE WORD” AS AN INDICATOR TO STOP.

Dominatrixes also have hard boundaries, make sure to ask BEFORE booking them. If you demand and push for it on the session without previous consent we might just walk away with no rights for refund.

HIGH RISK PRACTICES

Be careful for what you wish for!

BDSM is fun and exciting but doing your own research for high risk practices is your responsibility. I recommend for first time subs to book a minimum of 90 minutes to 2 hour session specially for first time high risk practices . When time is tight both parties feel rushed and the body tightens and there is more pressure for all. It´s best to be relaxed and sooth into it…trust me, you wont regret that!.

AFTER CARE

Last but not least on basic BDSM protocols it´s one of the most important but ignored part of a session is AFTER CARE.

WHAT IS AFTERCARE?

During a session so much can happen, vulnerability, euphoria, sadness, happiness, excitement, horniness, shame, empowerment, realizations and so much more.

So many subs require after care from dommes in a form of healing wounds, hug, caress sensitive spots, words of affirmation, etc.

So may forms of soothing someone that just went through so much and pro dommes offer that as a sign of respect and taking care of the trust stablished between both parties.

We know you confide in us, that you trust your mind, body and soul and that can be very violent if the sub is just expelled drastically and fast into the “REAL WORLD” without any bridge from the fantasy we created to the street.

Also pro-dommes have our own rituals for self care because its a very demanding time for us , session can simultaneously fulfill but drain us.

Asking for self care should be normal but not required, we all have different ways to process and cope.